The Guide of Her Youth Prov. 2:16-17 CLICK TITLE FOR AUDIO
In this passage Solomon describes a strange woman who flatters with her words and causes young men to leave the path of uprightness. This strange woman has forgotten the covenant of her God [to protect her virginity and to marry in the Lord] and has gone into the way of darkness [Prov 2:13]. This kind of trouble with a girl starts when she forsakes the guide of her youth [her parents].
Parents, for the sake of your daughter, you must be the guide of her youth. She may choose to forsake your guidance but, as her guide, you must teach her:
How to be Modest – girls today learn from current fashion trends – girls show far too much flesh today and stir up the lust of others – look at the description in 1 Tim 2:9-10 – does that look like society today? You need to guide your daughter in modesty – again, she may choose not to be modest later but you can help her by dressing her consistently modestly when she is very young.
How to be Spiritual – you can’t make your daughter spiritual but you can show her how to be spiritual – ultimately your daughter must make her own decision about receiving and following Jesus Christ – but at a young age, you have an influence in spiritual matters that can help her to desire spiritual things as she grows older – of course, if you aren’t spiritual the likelihood is that she won’t be spiritual either – more than likely your daughter is not going to be interested in a young man who is interested in things of the Lord – she’s going to look for a young man who is interested in her, her personality and her body – these are not spiritual interests; these are all carnal things.
How to be Balanced – there is a problem here with false balance – consider the woman of Prov 31 – she is balanced but she didn’t get that way by being the star cheerleader or the star volleyball or soccer or basketball player – many parents side heavily with education and sports and lightly with Bible and the church – and their children are out of balance – some of the girls who mysteriously disappeared in their late teens and early twenties were straight A students – but they weren’t smart enough to stay away from alcohol late at night and, as a result, regrettable and sometimes horrible things happened.
How to choose Relationships – there are many young men and women who aren’t good influences – they are often the popular ones that others want to be around – your daughter should know how to patiently choose good friends – and you should maintain an influence in your daughter’s relationships – teach your daughter to stay away from social media – teach your daughter to get to know his/her family before committing herself to a friendship – excellent friendships are often made with spiritual friends in sound churches.
How to deal with Emotions – there is a major difference between infatuation and Biblical love – teach your daughter the difference before she is old enough to experience infatuation – teach her how to recognize and deal with depression – teach her how to handle loneliness – teach her and show her what Biblical joy really is.
How to handle Peer Pressure – Prov 1:10 says that if sinners entice thee you are to consent not – that can be very difficult for a child to do particularly if she wants to go do what they are doing or if she fears them – the fear of man bringeth a snare – she may go along with them just so they don’t ridicule her – but she needs to know how much trouble she can get into.
How to be Safe – 2 Sam 13:8-14 – teach her to never be alone – teach her to get to her home early and not to be out late – young ladies whose lives have been destroyed were separated from their friends, they were intoxicated, they were dressed seductively, they were in a bad place, they were with someone whom they didn’t know, they were enticed and they were hurt or even worse some of them were killed – a girl who is truly spiritual wouldn’t put herself in any of these situations.